How to Break the Habit of Perfectionism and Set Yourself Free to Live Your Life
Most of us accept that it would be unreasonable to expect ourselves to be perfect, but we still see perfection as an ideal, something to be pursued. And yet to pursue perfection, if such a thing even exists, makes about as much sense as pursuing death.
If anything were ever perfect it would be sterile. It would be a dead end.
Everything wonderful in the whole universe has grown out of imperfection. That is how the creative principle of the universe works. The universe is a system – a network of energy, some of which behaves in a particular kind of orderly way that we refer to as matter.
This matter exists in a web of action and interaction with other matter and forms of energy. And some of that matter is alive and operating under its own internal direction as a subsystem of the whole. And the most complex form of that living matter is ourselves as we look out into the universe and try to understand it.
But how did we come about?
Through a serious of mutations, i.e. imperfections. Perfection is a steady-state. But the creative principle operates through variation. An animal, for instance, is born which is not quite right, a mutation of some kind. If that variation, that imperfection, proves beneficial then something new and wonderful comes into existence, a new branch on the tree of life. And all of those imperfections led to us.
And yet we somehow became intolerant of our mistakes and imperfections instead of seeing them as an intrinsic part of the creative process of the universe. How this unhelpful way of thinking about ourselves took hold is a mystery.
It’s Time You Gave Yourself A Mood Boost
There are many little changes we can make in our lives that can give our mood a boost, boosting your mood brightens up your day, brings a smile and makes life that little bit easier to deal with. Just by making the smallest changes that only takes as little as 5 minutes from your day you would be surprised the big difference it can make t your life. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish, just something you wouldn’t normally consider doing. Here are a few of my tips I have used for myself and with my clients to help give you that quick mood boost and can be done anytime whenever you are feeling out of sorts with the world or feeling a little down.
If you have 5 minutes to spare you can:
•Take out your daily goal planner and write something down that you have already completed today and cross it straight off the list.
• Take the weight off your feet and eat one of your 5 daily portions of fruit or veg.
• Look at yourself in the mirror and pull as many different funny faces as you can in 5 minutes.
• Read the comics in the daily paper.
• Take a quick shower or at least splash your face with water.
• Use some of that expensive perfume or deodorant you had bought for someone else or you got for Christmas and enjoy the beautiful smelling fragrance on yourself.
If you have 15 minutes to spare you can:
• De-clutter your desk or an area of your home.
• Treat yourself to a moisturising mask.
• Change into a favourite piece of clothing and admire yourself.
• Do a few quick and easy exercises or stretches.
• Read a few pages of a book or magazine you love and enjoy.
• Make yourself a big fresh fruit smoothie, sit down and enjoy it.
• Make a list of all the people you haven’t been in touch with in a while and schedule a time to call each of them. (Quick Note: People you love being around).
• Write down what you have enjoyed doing so far during the day in your journal.
• Find a comfortable spot, close your eyes and enjoy the silence, sound of rain or chirping birds.
If you have 30 minutes spare you can:
• Call someone you haven’t talked with in a while and catch up on all the gossip you missed.
• Use your computer to look for ideas for your next summer vacation.
• Take a soak in a tub full of your favourite bubbles or skin softener.
• Listen to your favourite CD.
• Go to your local store and treat yourself.
• Go for a walk and say hello to everyone you meet.
• Turn off the TV, phone and anything else that could disturb you and sit down and enjoy peace and quiet for a half-hour.
• Plan a quiet romantic meal.
• Write a letter to someone special and mail it.
• Discover a new recipe on the internet and plan to cook it for dinner.
• Replace any old photographs you have in frames with more updated pictures.
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”