I was doing a radio show just a couple of weeks ago and a question was posed to me which was along the lines of ‘How can someone use their talent to land them a job?‘
Based on my answer on the show it prompted me to write this little “little“ article. The market place is a vast mind field of ups and down. we have all been there where we worked in a job that felt like we were in a nightmare and some where we felt like we’ve lost all will to live.
And the shocking thing I have noticed is that the market place ‘ain’t‘ getting any easier or better for a matter of fact. Here are few statics that I managed to sauce on problems that are faced by employees at work.
New to the Workplace
Figuring out how to be part of a new work culture.
It takes time to gain the trust of coworkers to get them on board with your ideas.
They happen to everyone at some point.
It can be difficult when you’re settling into a new job and adjusting to your new responsibilities.
They cause anxiety and stress. And they often target those they see as a threat.
Gossipers and Trouble Makers
They can be especially disruptive to the workplace and cause misunderstandings. Be friendly, but act busy and they will get the message that you have better things to do. While this person can serve as your ears to the office grapevine and workplace dynamics, don’t comment or add fuel to their behaviour.
Whiners and Complainers
They tend to see the negative side to everything. This attitude can be harmful to morale. Be empathetic, but put the problem back on them. Ask them what they intend to do about solving it. Complaining may be their attempt to avoid conflict, relieve stress about things they feel they have no control over, or simply to get attention. Do not try to solve their problem for them. Do not turn their complaints into office gossip either.
Saboteurs and Backstabbers
They cause distrust by spreading rumours or withholding important information from those they see as rivals. This can affect your career goals and reputation. Confront them calmly about their behaviour. Do not play their game. When you have a good idea or assisted on a project, tell your supervisor so you get the credit you deserve. If someone is trying to make you look bad, check in regularly with your supervisor on your job performance.
Workplace Ethics and Integrity Issues
Poor business and workplace ethics can be hazardous to your job security. It can cause people to lose respect for you and follow you for the rest of your career. Stay clear of those who ask you to compromise your integrity. Say “no” to requests that make you feel uncomfortable. Review your employer’s workplace ethics and proper business ethics. In some cases, these issues need to be reported to your supervisor, human resources, or legal representatives.
Getting Along with Your Boss
Problems with a boss are emotionally and physically draining. They can often stem from work style or personality differences. The first step is to figure out what specifically they are doing that is upsetting you. Then ask yourself why. It helps to look at the problem from both your perspective AND your supervisor’s. Next, decide how best to discuss it with them. Avoid blaming, accusing, or venting. Try to use the “we” approach:
“WE seem to be missing deadlines because tasks aren’t started on time. How can WE fix this?”
Offer a solution that will help the both of you meet your goals and look good. If the problem can’t be resolved, contact their supervisor and human resources for assistance.
Dealing with Harassment or Discrimination
Harassment and discrimination are illegal and come in many forms. You do not have to put up with it. Ask the person to stop, and don’t put yourself in compromising situations. If you feel unsafe or need help, report it to your supervisor and human resources. Keep a detailed log of the other person’s behaviour. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission can also offer assistance with these issues. In some cases, you may require legal assistance.
Bullying in the workplace can include anything from condescending behaviour and gossiping to exclusion or violence. Both coworkers and bosses can be bullies. If you are being bullied at work, you are not alone. You didn’t cause this to happen and have options for how to handle the situation:
Try to deal with it yourself by confronting the bully in a calm, confident manner. Tell the bully that their comments or actions are offensive and give them an opportunity to correct his or her behaviour.
Prepare for consequences. Bullying often escalates once they are exposed.
Make sure your superiors are aware of your good work. Bullies often try to spread the word that you aren’t doing your job well.
Avoid situations where bullying is most likely to occur. Unfortunately, bullying cases are often hard to prove through legal action. You may choose to leave the hostile environment instead.
Fear of dismissal or retaliation keeps many employees from reporting bullying to their employers. Some employers dismiss the bullying as a personality conflict. Keep a detailed log of the bully’s behaviour and speak with someone in human resources or within the company that you trust.
Being Passed Over for Promotion
It never feels good to be turned down for something, but be gracious about the news. Don’t complain to others. Request a meeting with your supervisor to find out why and what you can do differently to gain a promotion. Below are a few other things you can do to help you get that next promotion:
Document your past successes and practice self-promotion so that your coworkers and networking contacts know about your accomplishments.
Acquire new knowledge and skills or update your current ones to keep yourself up to date and marketable.
Show initiative and leadership by actively look for ways to improve your company.
Be proactive and ask for more projects and responsibilities.
Find a person higher up in your company to serve as your mentor.
Be on good terms with your boss, and let him or her know you are interested in moving up.
Volunteer to work on teams.
Network with people inside and outside your company.
If you feel like you have advanced as far as you can go with your present employer, you have probably reached what is called the “glass ceiling.” You can see through that ceiling to the next career level, but you can’t seem to reach it. In addition to working toward any promotion (see above), there are ways to combat the glass ceiling:
Prove your value to your employer and identify which traits and skills they are looking for when they promote people.
Discuss your career goals with your supervisor and how to accomplish them.
Nurture your relationships with other people where you work.
This means you have been categorised as someone who is skilled in only certain areas and not considered for any other type of work. This prevents you from moving up or in a new career direction. When this happens, you may feel stuck in your present role at work. Taking the following steps can help:
Speak with your supervisor about the issue to find out why you are parked in your present position. Express your desire to do something different.
Volunteer to take on new responsibilities and projects to prove you can do other things. This will increase your value and visibility.
Get some additional training if necessary.
Train a replacement for yourself so management won’t feel they are losing the only person that can do your job well.
All this send and done is no wonder that so many of us are seriously thinking of ways they can cut down their hours they give to their 9-5 and find some alternative ways to create a more holistic work life balance but that can also bring in a pay cheque they can live on.
How To Guarantee Yourself A Job For Life
Now what I am about to share here might not be for everyone, in fact I know it’s not and you know what that’s okay with me. We are all at different points and journeys in life and we must be allowed to find out that path for ourselves.
But What I am about to share here is only based on my experience thus far going on my journey.. So here is how I got started.
I. Get Clear-
Simple as that may sound, this one simple action is the difference between you accomplishing something that you can be proud of because at the end of the day we should only be living up to our own personal full potential instead of competing with others.
Getting clear gives us a whole new look at things, its like driving through a thick fog and all of a sudden as you drive through it, it disappears and you can see everything again, and boy aren’t you glad when you can see everything after a fog? Everything looks brand new and just beautiful.
2. Build A Bull S!!!!!T Indicator-
Because a lot will come your way once you’ve got clear. What tends to happen I have found is that once the universe knows that you are serious and you truly mean business, it sends you all the crazy people, problems, situations and things out from some big black hole, just to test you to see if you really mean business about changing your life.
This is normal don’t worry you’ve made the right decision, just hold on tight for the ride and let’s go.
Create Your Own Job Title
Now I can hear you saying at this point she’s gone mad, but hear me out on this one as I’ve done it myself at points in my life.
Prior to becoming an entrepreneur and creating 6 successful business. I use to be a business studies teacher for 3 years and prior to that I was a teaching assistant for 5 and a childminder as well so you could say I had spent some time in the education system.
After working in my new role as a teacher for about 9 months or so I noticed that there was a gap in the school that I could fill with my talents, abilities and secret skills.
I was a dab dancer and took dancing when I was in my teens. I use to travel to competitions with my siblings and we won ourselves a handful of competitions and dance off’s.
So I decided to create a Hip Hop and dance club for the students. This for me killed to birds with one stone theory. I got to know my students on a closer level, which by the way should give me brownie points with them, but secondly, I could also work towards a big end of year performance where all the students could invite family members to come and watch them and give them that all so needed moral support which always goes down well with their parents and the students.
To cut the story short as I feel like I am writing a mini book here. I had over 32 students every Tuesday or Monday of every week teaching them street dance and hip-hop dance routines. I wasn’t even doing it for the money I just saw a gap that I could fill.
“I actually started to enjoy and love my job even more and the small fear I use to have walking into a classroom full of 20 or so students left me“.
I was then called upon a couple of months later into the head teachers office to be told that they would be paying me for my extra curriculum activities and if I would be willing to teach other classes and years as the dance club starting to grow in popularity. In a short space of time I went from just being a teacher to also becoming a dance teacher got a pay increase and a new job title which the kids gave me “there’s Mrs Phillips she’s the cool teacher“.
I was happy with that.
As far as I am aware they employed a full time dance teacher after I left to just teach dance at the school and the hip hop sessions are still going on after so many years after leaving.
Join me next week where I will continue How To Guarantee Yourself A Job For Life/Part Two until then …